As some of you may know I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend, as we both attend different universities.
People often ask me; how can you go out and not get with people? My answer is simple, I just don't aha.
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I’ve never really got the urge or ever thought about getting
with anyone, I think that’s probably when you know you’re in the right
relationship or certainly happy in it. I guess if you’re thinking about getting
with other people or if you are, it’s most likely that you aren’t 100% happy in
your relationship or just not in the right one for you.
I guess because I’ve been there and done that (before I was
in a relationship.) Not sleeping with lots of guys, just getting with (meaning
a bit of a snog) people most weekends, being young and having fun. Sounds slightly
bad aha but I use to get drunk several times a week, because why not? School
was stressful! So, I feel satisfied I’ve got out there and experienced some
life.
Don’t get me wrong I still get drunk now. However, I do know
I’m different when I’m drunk, a little crazy is an understatement and I’m not
saying that’s bad. Just when I’m drunk I’ll say yes to anything! Not to
cheating as I’ve never done that or thought about it, like I said. Just
anything my friends say when I’m drunk I’m doing, even if it means walking to a
club in the middle of the night in central Birmingham with strangers. Yes, very
stupid! Never do that, it wasn’t worth saving a couple of pounds on the taxi as I mostly
sobered up and was freezing cold by the time I got there. (Hoping my parents
never read this aha)
Or the time I got in the taxi with a group of people and travelled 6 miles away with no money or phone. Worried we wouldn’t be able to pay for the taxi, I convinced everyone to get out and walk the next couple of miles at 4am in the middle of the main road. Just to get to Mc Donald’s when none of us bought any food, we had no way of getting home (thinking we’ll be stuck at Mc Donald’s all night) with some guys I had just met that night. It was quite ridiculous, however I did meet the boyfriend I am with today that night. Whilst he was dressed as a green crayon, but that’s another story!
Or the time I got in the taxi with a group of people and travelled 6 miles away with no money or phone. Worried we wouldn’t be able to pay for the taxi, I convinced everyone to get out and walk the next couple of miles at 4am in the middle of the main road. Just to get to Mc Donald’s when none of us bought any food, we had no way of getting home (thinking we’ll be stuck at Mc Donald’s all night) with some guys I had just met that night. It was quite ridiculous, however I did meet the boyfriend I am with today that night. Whilst he was dressed as a green crayon, but that’s another story!
I guess if your reading this, go out a fair few times a week,
and are in a relationship you understand. If anyone makes a move on you, your
instant reaction is just no. For sure when I’m in a club, I can seem proper
bitchy whenever a guy comes up to me; asking to buy me a drink or to go outside
to talk. As I’m giving them the evils and walking away. Yes, it can be a little
harsh but I’m drunk and out to have a little dance with my friends. Of course it’s
making a snap judgement that, oh a guy wants to get with me if he’s trying to
talk to me. That may not be the end objective but he’s certainly not interested
in just being my friend, so why bother getting deep into a conversation that
you can’t walk away from? Whilst trying to hint to a friend to get you out of
there and him booking the Uber thinking it’s on… like Nooo. It’s better for me
to be harsh straight away as when I get talking to someone I find it so hard to
just walk away seeming impolite. Obviously when I’m dancing and a guy tries to
grab me, I’m walking in the opposite direction. Or my friend moves in the way
to block me aha, and I’m there ready to be the wing woman like look at her and
how hot she is.
It also takes trust, as I know when I’m out I’m doing all
things right and never thinking about doing anything. However, on the other end
is your partner and for sure you need to let him trust you and most importantly
never give him anything to worry about. As when I’m sat at home, I don’t want
to be worrying about my boyfriend going on a night out, so it does take trust. Especially
in a long-distance relationship when you don’t want someone lying through text
and they’re not coming home to you at the end of the night. You just want to
know your partners getting really drunk, having fun with his group whilst
dancing and doing slut drops (yes, my boyfriend slut drops, where’s the crying
face emoji?) Leaving the club with his friends, stopping off at Mc Donald’s
(that isn’t miles away) and in bed safe and sound.
(My hands in my pocket, not my stomach aha)
Thank you so much for reading, slightly more open and honest blog post, I hope that some of you can relate! Love from Tishhlah xxx
